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Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well.
In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage of your journey, helping you to prioritise your mental health and well being along the way.
Beginning with advice on starting out - such as finding your anchor, figuring out your personal reasons for pursuing non-monogamy, challenging your fears and practicing self-compassion - the book proceeds to cover the emotional aspects of non-monogamous relationships, including dealing with jealously and judgement, managing anxiety and maintaining independence, as well as practical elements such as scheduling your time, negotiating boundaries and managing your expectations, all accompanied with activities for further exploration.
Whether you are new to non-monogamy, or have been non-monogamous for years, this insightful and empowering book will provide you with the emotional tools you will need to live a happy non-monogamous life.
Lola Phoenix runs the popular weekly relationship advice column and podcast, Non-Monogamy Help, and has been non-monogamous for over a decade. Their writing has appeared in Medium, Huffington Post, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Independent, and Everyday Feminism. They often give talks and presentations on relationships and LGBTQIA+ issues and have been interviewed for Attitude, Buzzfeed and The Independent. The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy is their first book.